The frustration of not being able to access everyday happiness is natural and understandable. You work hard to build a life that reflects your values and goals. You do your best to be positive and you’re not necessarily encumbered by classic misfortune (which is gasoline on the fire of your constant ‘screen-saver’ guilt). Still, you’re…READ MORE >>
A manicure would be really great right now — a trip to the spa? Even better. Want a thoughtfully prepared and healthy meal, or a ‘lose track of time’ walk in a city you love? How about a long weekend getaway somewhere in nature, with 2 new books or a bunch of podcasts that have nothing to…READ MORE >>
People delve into self-destructive behaviors sometimes, it’s part of being human. I’m in hot mess mode this week. It was amateur night last night, don’t even ask me what I was thinking. (and the ever-popular) Don’t judge me. We all hit rough patches and go through periods where we’re just not ourselves. We feel…READ MORE >>
Lets get right in the mix. 1. The first reason is best explained by the father of psychology himself, Sigmund Freud: “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened by responsibility.” True change is about letting go of blame and taking personal accountability for the way you…READ MORE >>
After this interview I did for ELLE about whether or not social media is creating narcissists, a strange thing happened. A bunch of people from all over the country emailed me describing their bosses, ex’s, friends, and various family members — and everyone wanted to know the same thing, “Does that make them a narcissist?” I…READ MORE >>
Communication beyond "Ugh"
“I just feel so, blah.” “I’m really good.” “Ugh.” “It’s just whatever.” There’s a surprising amount of utility is in words like, ugh, blah, and whatever. Because they’re amorphous and vague, we liberally cast them out into our conversations as an all encompassing net which catches a multitude of emotions. Still, we get so used to speaking ‘text speak’ that we often…READ MORE >>
(and do extremely well, obviously)
Remember when you learned that there are healthy types of fat, that napping makes you more productive, and that there are safe types of sun exposure? The new research on perfectionism is like that.READ MORE >>
If 40 is the new 30, does that make 30 the new 40?
Financial solvency, relationship drama, career fulfillment, the perfect work/life balance, air-brushed beauty standards, the pressure to partner up and have kids… Ugh X 20. Millennial women have more opportunities than any generation of women before them, and the pressure is ON to construct a life that proves it. Please don’t get me wrong. I don’t even…READ MORE >>
In no particular order, these 9 lessons continue to pop up in my work as a therapist. No matter who the person is, no matter what the situation is, there are some things that remain true no matter what: 1. People will rarely tell others that they’re scared at first, they express their fears in…READ MORE >>