communication /

5 Signs of a Bad Listener


There are so many incredibly simple things in life that we unnecessarily complicate; listening is one of them. More specifically, there are 5 ways that listeners unintentionally taint conversations that have the potential to be so connective. If someone you’re talking to does any of these listening no-no’s, you know it’s more than just annoying.

the saturday creative /



It’s hard to know that you love something (like, really love it) and reconcile the fact that your day job isn’t directly or even indirectly related to that very special something.  There’s a lot of pressure to abandon a more predictable professional trajectory in pursuit of a career that reflects your individuality. (If you’re a

emotions /

Being Happier in Everyday Life

everyday happiness

The frustration of not being able to access everyday happiness is natural and understandable.  You work hard to build a life that reflects your values and goals.  You do your best to be positive and you’re not necessarily encumbered by classic misfortune (which is gasoline on the fire of your constant ‘screen-saver’ guilt). Still, you’re

self-care /

3 Mini-Acts of Self-Care You Can Do Right. Now.

woman stretching in grass

A manicure would be really great right now — a trip to the spa?  Even better. Want a thoughtfully prepared and healthy meal, or a ‘lose track of time’ walk in a city you love?  How about a long weekend getaway somewhere in nature, with 2 new books or a bunch of podcasts that have nothing to

habits /

Top 3 Reasons Why Some People Never Change

woman waiting

Lets get right in the mix. 1.  The first reason is best explained by the father of psychology himself, Sigmund Freud: “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened by responsibility.” True change is about letting go of blame and taking personal accountability for the way you

free association /

How To Tell If Someone’s A Narcissist

how to tell if someones a narcissist

After this interview I did for ELLE about whether or not social media is creating narcissists, a strange thing happened. A bunch of people from all over the country emailed me describing their bosses, ex’s, friends, and various family members — and everyone wanted to know the same thing, “Does that make them a narcissist?” I

free association /

Top 5 Thich Nhat Hanh Quotes

flower in concrete

1.  If you love someone, the greatest gift you can give them is your presence.  How can you love, if you are not even there?   2. The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.   3.  Meditation means

emotions /

How To Say How You Really Feel


Communication beyond "Ugh"

“I just feel so, blah.” “I’m really good.” “Ugh.” “It’s just whatever.” There’s a surprising amount of utility is in words like, ugh, blah, and whatever.  Because they’re amorphous and vague, we liberally cast them out into our conversations as an all encompassing net which catches a multitude of emotions. Still, we get so used to speaking ‘text speak’ that we often

perfection /

Healthy Perfectionism

woman excited healthy perfectionist

(and do extremely well, obviously)

Remember when you learned that there are healthy types of fat, that napping makes you more productive, and that there are safe types of sun exposure? The new research on perfectionism is like that.