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What No One Tells You About Mindful Eating

'Mindful eating' is one of those deceptively simple self-explanatory terms.The Center for Mindful Eating defines it as, "Allowing yourself to become aware of the positive and nurturing opportunities that are available through food selection and ...

The 5 Stages of Change

Wait, just thinking about changing is a stage of change?  That's how you start to change -- by thinking about it without doing anything? YES. The idea that just thinking about what you want to change is an actual stage of change is so rational and ...

When You Love Someone Who Is Self-Destructive and Continually Refuses Help

  People delve into self-destructive behaviors sometimes, it's part of being human.I'm in hot mess mode this week.It was amateur night last night, don't even ask me what I was thinking.(and the ever-popular)Don't judge me.We all hit rough ...

3 Things Healthy Perfectionists Do

Remember when you learned that there are healthy types of fat, that napping makes you more productive, and that there are safe types of sun exposure? The new research on perfectionism is like that.Increasingly, studies in the field of positive ...

Top 3 Reasons Why Some People Never Change

Lets get right in the mix.1.  The first reason is best explained by the father of psychology himself, Sigmund Freud:"Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened by ...

How To Change Naturally

If you're not ready to make that change you've been wanting to make, you don't have to.  When you're ready-enough, you'll do it.  Here's why - Sustainable change (i.e. change that actually lasts) always happens on an emotional level before it ...

4 Relationship Lessons We Can ALL Learn From Power Couples

As a couples therapist in Los Angeles, I see a lot of people who work in the entertainment industry.  From the outside, they’re considered “power couples” – both partners have successful and glamorous-sounding careers – but often they face the ...

When Nothing is Working, Give Up to Win

There aren't many things I know to be impossible tasks, but selectively healing is one of them.  It's number one of my ten philosophy tenets for a reason, because it's the single most important thing to keep in mind when working on personal change. ...

It Happens Every Day

Music is a highly under-utilized self-soothing tool, not to mention an unexpectedly perfect marker for our personal growth. Representative of  hundreds of little seasons of the heart, the songs we connect with help us track time and realize the ...

Personal Boundaries 101

You cannot have a healthy relationship without boundaries.  Since you read Part 1 and know how to decide what your boundaries are, it's time to implement them. Expressing your boundaries can be tricky.  There's usually a push-back from people who ...