We all get in our own way sometimes. This post is about how to get out of our own way. Portia Nelson was one of the most famous 50's cabaret singers, known for the 'silvery tone' of her voice (if that doesn't make you feel nostalgic..) Nelson's career also included publishing a best-selling book, There's a Hole In My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery.
"Autobiography in Five Short Chapters" is a complete *gem* of a poem found in Nelson's book. It reflects the cycle of changing a habit in a self-compassionate and realistic way:
"I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place. But, it isn't my fault. It still takes me a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in. It's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
I walk down another street.”
If you're experiencing difficulty breaking out of a habit you know is no good for you, recruit support here or here. Talk to someone you love and trust about it, try something you've never tried before. Keep talking. Keep trying.