2 Toxic Thoughts You Accidentally Think Every Day

You might not think you have a morning ritual, but you do.  "I didn't get enough sleep."                 +"I don't have enough time."  According to Lynne Twist,  author of The Soul of ...

Meditation for the Non-Yogi

The point of meditating is to gain access to the present moment, because people feel more alive when they're present.  Another way to say that you feel more alive is that you feel more conscious -- more aware of what you're doing, why you're ...

3 Things Healthy Perfectionists Do

Remember when you learned that there are healthy types of fat, that napping makes you more productive, and that there are safe types of sun exposure? The new research on perfectionism is like that.Increasingly, studies in the field of positive ...

How To Interpret Your Own Dreams

It's hard to deny the complete phenomenon that is dreaming.  Your body and brain are in such an utterly unique state when you dream.  Once you hit REM sleep, your brain paralyzes all your muscles except the ones in your eyes, and your ...

10 Everyday Luxuries You Forgot You Love

If you don't notice something, it's as if it doesn't exist. If you don't notice the luxury woven all throughout your life, it's truly not there. For that reason, we all carry different realities about the ways in which our lives are full or empty. ...

Feeling Empty? Read this.

Unless you're either still emo or a superbeing, emptiness does not feel good.   In an oh-so-ironic twist, however, feeling empty can actually be a surprisingly fulfilling experience.  In fact, if you're feeling empty it just might be ...

When Working-Out is the Worst, How to Motivate Yourself to Exercise

Everyone knows exercising is good thing.  Breaking a sweat boosts your energy, heart health, immunity and helps you sleep better.  More than just strengthening your physical health, working out almost immediately releases the magic ...

3 Surprising Benefits of Fighting With Your Partner

Before we look at what happens when couples experience conflict, lets look at what happens when they don't.  Relationships with no conflict have been proven time and time again to be the least healthy.* Typically, ‘no-conflict’ relationships ...

Fifteen Reasons People Deny Themselves Happiness

I’ve been on a Brene Brown kick recently, and I’m not fighting it.  While reading Dr. Brown’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection some time ago, I was struck by her, “Worthiness Prerequisite List.” The worthiness list is basically a list of stuff in ...

WHAT I WORE

It's hard to know that you love something (like, really love it) and reconcile the fact that your day job isn't directly or even indirectly related to that very special something.  There's a lot of pressure to abandon a more predictable ...

Being Happier in Everyday Life

The frustration of not being able to access everyday happiness is natural and understandable.  You work hard to build a life that reflects your values and goals.  You do your best to be positive and you're not necessarily encumbered by ...

3 Mini-Acts of Self-Care You Can Do Right. Now.

A manicure would be really great right now -- a trip to the spa?  Even better. Want a thoughtfully prepared and healthy meal, or a 'lose track of time' walk in a city you love?  How about a long weekend getaway somewhere in nature, with 2 new books ...

Top 3 Reasons Why Some People Never Change

Lets get right in the mix.1.  The first reason is best explained by the father of psychology himself, Sigmund Freud:"Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened by ...

4 Stages of a Quarter Life Crisis

Financial solvency, relationship drama, career fulfillment, the perfect work/life balance, air-brushed beauty standards, the pressure to partner up and have kids... Ugh X 20. Millennial women have more opportunities than any generation of women ...

9 Lessons On Connection I've Learned from Being a Therapist

In no particular order, these 9 lessons continue to pop up in my work as a therapist.  No matter who the person is, no matter what the situation is, there are some things that remain true no matter what:1.  People will rarely tell others ...

The Difference Between Healing & Changing

Please remind me never to watch a TV show about hoarders again.  Besides the label itself, hoarder (which sounds unsympathetic at best and wholly shameful at worst), there's something really wrong with these genuinely well-intended shows. The worst ...

The Difference Between Guilt and Shame

Guilt and shame are complicated emotions, but the difference between them is very simple:Guilt says: I feel badly about what I did/didn't do.Shame says: I feel badly about who I am/who I am not. For the most part, we know what to do with guilt. ...