habits

What No One Tells You About Mindful Eating

'Mindful eating' is one of those deceptively simple self-explanatory terms.The Center for Mindful Eating defines it as, "Allowing yourself to become aware of the positive and nurturing opportunities that are available through food selection and ...

The 5 Stages of Change

Wait, just thinking about changing is a stage of change?  That's how you start to change -- by thinking about it without doing anything? YES. The idea that just thinking about what you want to change is an actual stage of change is so rational and ...

How To Tell If Someone's A Narcissist

After this interview I did for ELLE about whether or not social media is creating narcissists, a strange thing happened. A bunch of people from all over the country emailed me describing their bosses, ex's, friends, and various family members -- and ...

When Working-Out is the Worst, How to Motivate Yourself to Exercise

Everyone knows exercising is good thing.  Breaking a sweat boosts your energy, heart health, immunity and helps you sleep better.  More than just strengthening your physical health, working out almost immediately releases the magic ...

Top 3 Reasons Why Some People Never Change

Lets get right in the mix.1.  The first reason is best explained by the father of psychology himself, Sigmund Freud:"Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened by ...

How To Change Naturally

If you're not ready to make that change you've been wanting to make, you don't have to.  When you're ready-enough, you'll do it.  Here's why - Sustainable change (i.e. change that actually lasts) always happens on an emotional level before it ...

3 Tips To Make Your Resolutions Stick

Blame it on watching Oprah religiously for the past 20 plus years (still obsessed, just FYI), but I'm kind of over the expression "live your best life."  The thing is, I'm also a total and complete sucker for that special, singular, positive ...

Breaking a Bad Habit

We all get in our own way sometimes.  This post is about how to get out of our own way. Portia Nelson was one of the most famous 50's cabaret singers, known for the 'silvery tone' of her voice (if that doesn't make you feel nostalgic..) ...

How to Get Out of Your Own Way

Here's a list of things most people think they should be doing more of, see if you relate to any: I should be working out more I should be eating more healthfully I should spend more time with my family I should wake up earlier I should spend more ...

When Nothing is Working, Give Up to Win

There aren't many things I know to be impossible tasks, but selectively healing is one of them.  It's number one of my ten philosophy tenets for a reason, because it's the single most important thing to keep in mind when working on personal change. ...