What Is Seasonal Affective Disorder?

The winter blues, winter depression, a winter slump... Seasonal Affective Disorder goes by a lot of different names and describes a particular type of depression, one that typically shows up at the end of fall and carries on into the winter ...

4 Mantras to Deal with Awkward & Stressful Holiday Moments

Do you ever just wish you could be in one of those Cameron Diaz-esque holiday movies, where things are "really bad" (even though they're by all accounts amazing) so you embolden yourself, go on some grand adventure house-swap thing, fall in love, ...

The 6 Factors Used To Test Perfectionism

Julia Child, Barbara Bush, Sylvia Plath, Nancy Regan – were they all perfectionists?  I have no idea, but they did all attend Smith, a top-ranked all-women’s college where Dr. Randy Frost studies perfectionism amidst the top-ranked, all-women ...

The 6 Family Roles In Addiction

When addiction happens, it happens to the whole family, and addiction comes in so so so many forms.  Whether the addiction is to food, alcohol, heroine, marijuana, chaos (etc.), whether the addiction is loud or quiet, whether the addiction is ...

HOTLINE BLING

I know what you're thinking, and the answer is no.  But I'll get to that in a second, first I want to tell you a little story.Once upon a time in a far away land called the early 90's, there was no internet and no Netflix, and when people felt ...

How To Say How You Really Feel

"I just feel so, blah.""I'm really good.""Ugh.""It's just whatever."There's a surprising amount of utility is in words like, ugh, blah, and whatever.  Because they're amorphous and vague, we liberally cast them out into our ...

8 Ways To Deal With Seasonal Affective Disorder and the Winter Blues

As I mentioned in Part 1, the good news about Seasonal Affective Disorder and the good ole' fashioned winter blues is that both are easily treatable.This post includes 8 starting points to boost mood in the winter months, but there are many, many ...

What No One Tells You About Mindful Eating

'Mindful eating' is one of those deceptively simple self-explanatory terms.The Center for Mindful Eating defines it as, "Allowing yourself to become aware of the positive and nurturing opportunities that are available through food selection and ...

The 16 Best Drug Store Buys for Self-Care

Self-care isn't as easy as it seems.  If you're someone who spends all day fielding demands from every direction, it can be hard to redirect some of your precious time and energy exclusively to yourself.Adding to the difficulty of finding time ...

5 Signs of a Bad Listener

There are so many incredibly simple things in life that we unnecessarily complicate; listening is one of them. More specifically, there are 5 ways that listeners unintentionally taint conversations that have the potential to be so connective. If ...

Creating Your Sacred Self

Guest Post by the wonderful, brilliant and endlessly compassionate Chaz Franke. As a therapist I consider the area where I meet with the other to be sacred. I want the world to fall away while the heroes I meet one hour at a time allow their ...

The 5 Stages of Change

Wait, just thinking about changing is a stage of change?  That's how you start to change -- by thinking about it without doing anything? YES. The idea that just thinking about what you want to change is an actual stage of change is so rational and ...

How To Tell If Someone's A Narcissist

After this interview I did for ELLE about whether or not social media is creating narcissists, a strange thing happened. A bunch of people from all over the country emailed me describing their bosses, ex's, friends, and various family members -- and ...

Switch These 2 Words During Your Next Tough Conversation

As Donn King says, people are not logical, they're psycho-logical.  When it comes to effectively communicating, there's a certain three letter word that causes a whole lot of trouble.  This word, especially when used during an argument or ...

When You Love Someone Who Is Self-Destructive and Continually Refuses Help

  People delve into self-destructive behaviors sometimes, it's part of being human.I'm in hot mess mode this week.It was amateur night last night, don't even ask me what I was thinking.(and the ever-popular)Don't judge me.We all hit rough ...

10 Warning Signs of Physical Abuse

Physical abuse almost never begins on the first date, the second date, or even the 10th.  Below are 10 warning signs of abusive behavior, as well as resources to get yourself out of an abusive situation.  If you recognize any of the signs ...

Declutter Like a BOSS

I'm pretty sure my lack of sentimentality when I'm in 'declutter mode' freaks my very sweet and sentimental husband out sometimes. I love getting rid of things, letting go, and keeping it fresh.  I definitely didn't think I needed a tutorial on ...