communication /

Pretty Much the Number One Communication Tool of All Time

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Understanding the 5 Love Languages

I wish he would just bring me flowers once in a while. –Does he know how much you would like that, or what your favorite kind of flowers are? No, but it should be obvious–who doesn’t want flowers?  And anyway, I don’t want to tell him to do it, that ruins it!

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habits /

How to Get Out of Your Own Way

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Here’s a list of things most people think they should be doing more of, see if you relate to any: I should be working out more I should be eating more healthfully I should spend more time with my family I should wake up earlier I should spend more time on my appearance in the

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S P R I N G – hope springs eternal

ellen chen

Part 3 of a 4 part non-fiction essay entitled, "Seasons," by Ellen Chen

It’s hard to know that you love something (like, really love it) and reconcile the fact that your day job isn’t directly or even indirectly related to that very special something.  There’s a lot of pressure to abandon a more predictable professional trajectory in pursuit of a career that reflects your individuality. Despite popular opinion, monetizing

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semantics /

The Difference Between Fear + Worry

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“Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”  Agree or disagree? I happen to disagree. The saying implies that if you just get over your fear, you get what you want.  Liberated from the fear that’s holding you back,  you move boldly and swiftly towards your dreams — I guess that’s the

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habits /

When Nothing is Working, Give Up to Win

Lotus Flower

An unconventional strategy for changing your life

There aren’t many things I know to be impossible tasks, but selectively healing is one of them.  It’s number one of my ten philosophy tenets for a reason, because it’s the single most important thing to keep in mind when working on personal change. When I say that selectively healing is impossible, I mean that

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music /

When You Can’t Forget…

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Music is a highly under-utilized self-soothing tool, not to mention an unexpectedly perfect marker for our personal growth. Representative of  hundreds of little seasons of the heart, the songs we connect with help us track time and realize the changes that are happening in our lives. This week’s Sound Track Sunday is: “I’m On Fire” by the boss

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the saturday creative /

The Zen of Sherlock Holmes

Chaz Franke

The Saturday Creative is all about featuring busy professionals who honor their creative impulses and passions outside of their more conventional careers.  This week’s contribution comes from the busy, brilliant and open-hearted Chaz Franke.  Chaz is a professor and fellow psychotherapist who specializes in working with trauma survivors through the non-profit sector in St. Louise.  Chaz

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music /

Cozy Winter Moments

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Music is a highly under-utilized self-soothing tool, not to mention an unexpectedly perfect marker for our personal growth. Representative of  hundreds of little seasons of the heart, the songs we connect with help us track time and realize the changes that are happening in our lives. This week’s Sound Track Sunday is, “Skinny Love,” by the indie

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Doctors, Harps and Horses, Oh My!

Meredith Hurdes-Lowder

The Saturday Creative is all about featuring busy professionals who honor their creative impulses and passions outside of their more conventional careers.  This week’s contribution comes from Meredith Hudes-Lowder, a top-rated nurse practitioner (she’ll earn her doctorate in 2016) practicing in Manhattan. Each year, Meredith honors her love of nature, fresh air and horses by

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self-care /

Are You Burning Out?

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How to restore

How do you know if you’re just “tired a lot” or if you’re truly burning out and exhausted?  What’s more, how do you know what to do about either? Being tired means that your physical energy is drained.  If you prioritize your sleep every day for a week straight,  you’ll quickly feel energized and excited

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