3 Tips To Make Your Resolutions Stick

Resolutions

Blame it on watching Oprah religiously for the past 20 plus years (still obsessed, just FYI), but I’m kind of over the expression “live your best life.”  The thing is, I’m also a total and complete sucker for that special, singular, positive momentum that only the new year can usher in.

While some people like to broadcast their resolutions enthusiastically, others prefer to remain private about what they’re really hoping to change in 2016.  As in, “I don’t really do resolutions, ” while secretly hoping to launch a business, start dating someone special, begin working on that one special project, etc.

Whichever category you fit into, here are 3 tips to stay on track and ride that fresh, energetic wave that only the new year can bring.  Now lets all make Oprah proud and get on with them.

1.  DO YOU

Only you know what’s really important to you and what really impacts the quality of your life.  A big difference could be something as small as making sure your coffee is in the filter and ready to go the night before so that you can start your day in a less hurried, more peaceful state of mind — or that you actually put your laundry away after finishing it, instead of leaving it in a clean pile somewhere in your home.  While making your resolution, don’t worry if others think it’s too small, not important enough or otherwise get all judgy about it.  This is your life and you can resolve to live it however you want to, truly.  As Brene Brown says, “No one can define what’s meaningful for us.”

2. BE THE BOSS

The best leaders don’t rigidly stick to an initial plan when it’s not working, especially as they gain new information about what might be more effective.

Know what the best leaders do?

They adapt.  That’s right, I underlined it — being able to adapt is incredibly (underline-worthy) important.

As you lead yourself into a healthier you in the next few weeks, you may need to adjust your resolution to better fit your lifestyle.  Adapting your goals to be more manageable isn’t a big deal or a prelude to your impending failure, so don’t even start with all that negative self-talk.  It’s common for people to underestimate the challenge to consistently behave in a new way for days upon weeks upon months.  It’s okay if you need to tweak your resolution.  A number of professionals in the helping field, including myself, fitness pros and the entire American Counseling Association all say the best advice is to set yourself up for success by making your goals easier at first;  it’s a smart and often highly effective strategy.

So remember, you’re the boss of this effort — if you know you need to adapt  your goals, trust your instincts and lead yourself towards a more effective strategy for change.

3. ANTICIPATE A RELAPSE 

A relapse is a step back after a period of improvement, and they happen to everyone.  Managing your expectations from the go and understanding that a relapse is highly likely to occur helps to buffer the crushing disappointment when you do, in fact, mess up your goal.  Successful strategies for change have a relapse plan, so consider getting one  yourself.

For example, if your resolution is to work out three times a week and you fail to carry out that goal in the last week of January, decide what you’re going to do about that now.  Is that it?  Curtains down?  Do you just stamp yourself a failure at making positive changes and immediately start trolling seamless for those yummy fried spring rolls you like to depression eat?

That would be a real shame, because no one changes perfectly.

You’ll  mess up, so make a plan to get back up.  Perhaps you need more support or a stressful distraction needs to have tighter boundaries around it, asap (cue whip sound).  Decide right now how you’ll deal with discouragement and regression, and you’ll be just fine.

So, there ya have ’em, my 3 tips.  Do you have resolutions this year?  I do!

One of them is to strengthen my abdominal core which I’ve been meaning to do for, oh, I don’t know, the past 3 or 4 years.  Every year I go to my doctor and complain about back pain, and she says, “You need to strengthen your core.”  And I say, “Right, got it, ok.” Then I go and do a bunch of other things that have nothing to do with strengthening my core.  Not this year!

Ok, I shared, now your turn —

If you have a few extra secs, I’d love to hear what your resolutions are or what your strategies are for how you keep your eyes on the prize in the comments below. I especially love to hear about resolutions that have been brewing for some time, why this year?

7 Responses to “3 Tips To Make Your Resolutions Stick”

  1. Shannon

    i just started to feel burned out (already! 5 days in) so this post was exactly what i needed to read – i have the tried and true resolution of exercising regularly. i’ve always set big goals with the thought that it would be motivating in and of itself to aspire to do something great … now that i’m over that “go big or go home” mentality already i’m definitely going to try adapting my goals and owning my choice. like a boss. thank you for helping me find some extra oomph in my resolution! now, back to the gym.

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    • Katherine Schafler

      I’m with you on the exercising front, Shannon! I can also get intimidated by the ‘go big or go home’ mentality, so thanks for reminding all of us that if we put that aside and just get started, it’ll be all good. Love that, thanks for sharing! 🙂

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  2. I’m usually a private resolution kinda gal, but I am definitely a big believer of making them. Three years ago I resolved to drink more (ha!) after having two babies and not nearly enough fun – and I nailed that one! But then the past two years were frought with pretty huge life-changey, harder kinda resolutions. So this year I’m mixing it up and (on top of the typical health stuff), my biggest resolution is to take my kids to Disney World! They deserve it, and I do too dammit, so my plan to keep it is by hurrying up and booking it. Might be cheating a bit as that one should be easy to keep, but maybe an indulgent resolution every few years is good for the soul?! Here’s hoping! Thanks for the post!

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    • Katherine Schafler

      I LOVE the idea of indulgent resolutions, and good for you for resolving to live a life full of fun, happy memories for you and your family. I’m really gonna think about this indulgent resolution thing — you’re definitely onto something Lisa! Thanks so much for sharing and good luck with Disney!

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  3. Love this post! Resolutions are tough I find I always make very unrealistic resolutions and rarely stick with them, which in turn makes me feel depressed and disappointed in myself. This year I decided I wasn’t going to focus on just one thing. Instead my resolution is to focus more on me as a whole. 2016 is the year where I slow down and spend more time focused on my personal life, my family, my friends, and all the things that make me happy like cooking, working out, writing, reading etc. If I just give myself an hour more a week to work on me then maybe everything else will start to fall into place!

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    • Katherine Schafler

      Hi Lauryn! Thanks for that thoughtful nugget, I think we all get a little lost in the shuffle sometimes. I love that your focus is on the process, not the end result — that inspires me to focus on my own process, too. Thanks again for sharing and good luck with the ‘me’ time!

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