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The Difference Between Healing & Changing

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Please remind me never to watch a TV show about hoarders again.  Besides the label itself, hoarder (which sounds unsympathetic at best and wholly shameful at worst), there’s something really wrong with these genuinely well-intended shows. The worst part about hoarder shows isn’t the quiet shock of seeing how deeply stuck people who suffer from hoarding

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The Difference Between Guilt and Shame

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Guilt and shame are complicated emotions, but the difference between them is very simple: Guilt says: I feel badly about what I did/didn’t do. Shame says: I feel badly about who I am/who I am not.  For the most part, we know what to do with guilt.  It might take us a while, but we

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Procrastinating Vs. Maximizing

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The word ‘procrastinator’ is my version of Sandberg’s ‘bossy.’  I don’t like that word when it’s used to describe driven, focused, ambitious people. I notice that a lot of high-achievers call themselves procrastinators when they thrive at performing closer to a deadline, churning out high-quality work in lightening speed.  The label wouldn’t be that big

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The Difference Between Fear + Worry

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“Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”  Agree or disagree? I happen to disagree. The saying implies that if you just get over your fear, you get what you want.  Liberated from the fear that’s holding you back,  you move boldly and swiftly towards your dreams — I guess that’s the

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